December 7th, 2004


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12:43 am - on being the creepy old man...

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[User Picture]From: ouchfest Date: December 7th, 2004 - 04:39 am (Link)
I feel for you, man. The media has fostered the impression that men are child-molesters. Sensationalistic stories sell advertisements. They have inspired a upiquitous fear and distrust of any men who want any kind of contact with children.

I think (this is my personal perception) that it's hit men harder than women. I've worked in a daycare, an after-school program, and a few hospital facilities with kids age 1-17, and nearly all of my coworkers (all at the daycare) were women. I was constantly terrified at each job of looking like a molester. I wouldn't hug the kids like the women did.

Sometimes female coworkers would ask me to change a kid or give someone a bath. That trust made me feel better. Other times the female supervisors (there were never male supervisors) specifically said that male staff should never be alone with female clients, but the reverse was fine, and that pissed me off. I know what the arguments are for this, and I don't have time to debate them, but I'm just going to say that they're only partially justified and mostly bullshit.

The media also historically hypersexualized men and hyposexualized women. That's changing now. I wouldn't be surprised if we see an upsurgance of female pedophiles. Then we'll all be afraid of anyone interacting with children. It makes me sad. Like that scene in Mrs. Doubtfire when Robin says to his brother how pissed he is when the social worker wonders why he hugs his own children.

It's natural and healthy to care about children and touch them. It's not necessarily sexual. We're just indocrinated to believe that those behaviors coming from men are sexual, and coming from women are not. The practices of the media are so hurtful to society.

Go ahead and take pictures of children.
[User Picture]From: chrismaverick Date: December 7th, 2004 - 08:03 am (Link)
in general, history will human nature will always treat men as more predatory than women. Several reasons exist for this. First, historically, its true. Equality (or the pretense thereof) for females is a relatively recent invention. As such, we have eons of acceptance to the idea of men as hunters, warriors, breadwinners, or villains. Women on the other hand are to be mothers and caretakers. Second there is the physical threat level. A man on average is stronger and more dangerous than a woman. Finally, there is the testosterone level. A man is generally going to be capable of greater levels of agression than women. Naturally, none of this adds up to men automatically being pedophiles (or rapists, or killers or whatever), but there's naturally going to be a greater fear present.

Interesing question for women. In many cases, regarding possible (perceived) sexual or intimate contact to women. Women might specifically choose a female gynecologist. Female doctors will sometimes be brought in to perform rape kits. Female officers do the strip searches on an arrested suspect. So the question is, as a woman would you prefer an older, stably married, heterosexual but likely past his sexually excitable prime man do a procedure such as this, or a younger, sexually active and vibrant lesbian? Society, I think tends to favor the lesbian. There is simply something "safer" feeling about women.
[User Picture]From: ouchfest Date: December 7th, 2004 - 04:27 pm (Link)
A man on average is stronger and more dangerous than a woman. Finally, there is the testosterone level. A man is generally going to be capable of greater levels of agression than women. Naturally, none of this adds up to men automatically being pedophiles (or rapists, or killers or whatever), but there's naturally going to be a greater fear present.

Oh, yeah, and women suck at math% Statistically significant differences in averages are not always as important as practical similarities in distributions, and the etiologies aren't particularly clear between genetics, environment, testosterone, and aggression. We have a lot of correlational observations, and some counterintuitive experimental results. People just don't A) have the right information or B) understand how to interpret information. Thank you, Fox News and our educational system%

I'm not saying there are no practical differences. I'm just saying that 99.9% of the population has no idea how to even evaluate relevant information, and current perceptions are way off from reality in a damaging manner, and contribute to a terrible self-fullfilling prophesy.
[User Picture]From: chrismaverick Date: December 7th, 2004 - 07:15 pm (Link)
perhaps... perhaps not. It really isn't relevant. if 99.9% of the population evaluates something logically incorrectly, but in the same incorrect manner, then essentially they are correct. Consensus reality. Gay marriage is a sin, not because of any edict from Jay-Z or whatever higher power the rest of the country believes in but because most people believe that some higher power denoted it a sin. Whether he did or not, or whether there is even a higher power is irrelevant.

Point being, whether women suck at math or not, if no one will allow them to do math because of the belief that they suck, then the end result is the same.
 

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