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[User Picture]From: sexyhockihoochi Date: March 10th, 2006 - 04:28 pm (Link)
I don't talk to my mom about my sex life either. She just is aware that it's going on, since I told her I was having sex with Ben. It's not like I'd walk up to my parents and be like "Hey Ben and I just had some amazing sex. It was such an intense orgasm, and I think I'm going to do it again in an hour or so." My dad knows I have sex because my mom tells him, but he will always be in denial that his little Princess is engaging in such behavior. His son, however, is to be congratulated. Sociological double standard, but whatever. I don't care if they know, but I'm not likely to go bragging to anyone in my family about my sex life, just because we don't discuss that very often in my family. We're still really set in Eastern European ways since my grandparents immigrated here. It's more of a "you're not married, you can't have sex thing." My brother knows I have sex, and occasionally I will make obscene comments to gross him out.

As far as other parents not believing their children are sexually active, it may be because of religious reasons. Some extremely religious people believe that you should only have sex to produce children, so having sex twice in your lifetime with two kids is plausible to them. I guess it all depends on your family's beliefs/morals/ideals/whatever you want to call it.
[User Picture]From: chrismaverick Date: March 10th, 2006 - 06:31 pm (Link)
Yeah, I totally buy that the double standard still exists. But like most things that I post here, I'm really interested in trying to understand why. A lot more so than I care to try to change it. So the old-country proper immigrant mentality totally makes sense there. The question of course is, did your parents follow that reasoning themselves when they were your age.

That's the rub, really. I totally get if someone is religious to the point that they believe that sex should only be used for procreation. There's logic to that. Logic I don't agree with, but logic I can follow. So I'm cool with it. But I don't understand the mentality of "I know what I was like when I was my kids age, so I'm going to watch him/her like a hawk so s/he doesn't do the same things!" TO me, the immediate question is "but if your parents did that to you, wouldn't you have just been even more devious?"

When I have kids, I'm going to let them lose their virginity at 7 if they want. Just totally get rid of all of the pressure right from the jump.
[User Picture]From: sexyhockihoochi Date: March 14th, 2006 - 04:36 am (Link)
Sorry I took so long to respond.

I don't know why a double standard exists. (Why did my brother cut the grass while I did the laundry? No clue.)

My mom came straight out and told me that her and my dad didn't have sex until they were engaged. Of course mom was 18 and dad was 19 at that time. But you can bet that my parents never told THEIR parents that they had sex. Personally, I would rather not know about my parents' sex life, so I assume they wouldn't really want to hear about my booming sex life.

My dad lives in another world as far as my sex life is concerned. He doesn't believe it will ever exist just because I'm his princess. My mom wasn't into the whole "watch her like a hawk," but she gave me a sex talk at 13 and again when she found out I was having sex with Ben (at 19). She didn't focus on the whole "never have sex". She just told me about safe sex and to make sure I really cared about the person.

I wouldn't want my kids having sex before high school ends, but that's simply for practical reasons. Whether male or female, I'd prefer not to have my children getting pregnant or getting someone else pregnant in high school. And no matter how safe you think the sex is you're having, it's not fool-proof. I've known women who have gotten pregnant while on the Pill and using condoms all the time. Rare, but not impossible. I don't think virginity is so much pressure. I was taught that sex is special, something you do with people you care about. I'd prefer that my children understand that. That doesn't mean they should wait until they're married or only have sex with one person in their life time. I would just prefer that my children don't have sex with every random person they meet. I don't want sex to replace real intimacy either.

To me, I wouldn't mind if my children came to talk to me about sex. I'd rather not have my child come up and say something like "damn, I fucked Betty Sue so hard last night that she was sore for a week. Hey mom, do you think dad will give me pointers on how to make her cum quicker?" I doubt my parents would want to hear anything like that either. I wouldn't even really want to know that anyone in my family was humping like a wild monkey. Hell, I really don't want to hear that anyone is humping like a wild monkey except myself and Benny.

I think it's all in how you were raised. There isn't a right or wrong issue here. Just a difference in culture and upbringing.
 

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