July 7th, 2006

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[User Picture]From: lacechenault Date: July 7th, 2006 - 02:26 pm (Link)
I don’t put much thought into what I wear – in comparison to a lot of women. I do like shopping, when I have the money for it, which is rare. But I don’t try super hard to match, or be up to date. I actually prefer goodwill shopping.

The only time I really ever tried to look good at work is when I was a bartender, and only because my boss told me I dressed too “frumpy” needed to be more sexy for bartending. So, I tried. So, I guess it all depends on the job you have – for an office job I think just looking neat and clean is appropriate, if a bit of sexiness is thrown in that’s ok, just not to the hooker/pimp extreme. And as far as kids in school go, I will never let my little girl dress like a hooch, ever. I’m just not into being sexy – I may be sexy when doing the belly dance thing, but that’s all for me, and feeling good about myself, never for other people. And I fear that a 14 year old girl wouldn’t be dressing sexy for herself, it would be for the boys, and boys just want the poontang.

I would let them get their ears pieced, at the appropriate age, say 11 or 12. But I couldn’t pierce an infant, to me, that’s just wrong. But, then again I never wear earrings, my ears and pieced and on the yearly occasion that I might wear earrings for fun, I always have to repeirce the holes in my ears a bit. Heck as a belly dancer, I’m actually unique for NOT having a belly button piercing.
[User Picture]From: chrismaverick Date: July 7th, 2006 - 02:45 pm (Link)
How old is your daughter, anyway? I know you've had a little girl as long as I've known you, so at bare minimum she's like 5. But I never knew how old she was then.

If you could, I kinda wonder about your answers to the same questions I asked sonbanon above. There's a difference between dressing like a hooch and being sexy. At what point will you let your daugther explore that for herself? You said you'd let her get her ears done at the appropriate age. How did you arrive at the age of 11 or 12? Is she allowed to pick out her own clothes (with supervision)? What about make-up? When is that allowed?

As for the "dressing sexy for the boys comment." While I understand your point, I don't totally agree with it (or totally disagree with it). I think that a 14 year old girl definitely wants to feel attractive for herself, and I don't know that I have a problem with her wanting attention from others (within reason of course -- there is a point where that attention could be dangerous, and that attention shouldn't come exclusively from appearance, but I think its ok to want to be the prettiest, just like I think its ok to want to be the smartest, funniest, nicest and most athletic. I would hope that when I have kids, they'd strive for it all.)
[User Picture]From: lacechenault Date: July 7th, 2006 - 03:30 pm (Link)
Yes, but sometimes the fine line between hooch and sexy. I think I would supervise the outfits till about the age of 12 - then it's all their own - of course I will give it the go ahead - or get back in that room and change..11 or 12 seems like the right time for a child to begin making their own decisions. Thats when they start to begin to "find themselves", so i think it's a good time. Make-up is a different thing, I think I'd start with just eye liner, then add on from that starting at about 13, slowly let her do different things. I don't wanna say - here's a makeup case go at it. I want to show her HOW it should be applied, and let her start with just one thing, and building on that. I myself don't wear any makeup and it's my hope that she would be the same way about it, but you never know.

And I know she would want to be pretty for herself in a way - but there's a line there. Like - nice panty hose, sure - fishnet stalkings....no. Skirt a few inches above the knees - with some sort of short shorts underneath, sure....mini-shirt, with just panties underneath....hell no.

There will be no dress code or anything, but I will have to OK things she walks out in.
[User Picture]From: chrismaverick Date: July 7th, 2006 - 06:00 pm (Link)
All very interesting. How old is she now? When do you have to start worrying about these things?

Also, you mentioned you'd let her pierce her ears at 11. What about the belly button? Would that have to wait til later?

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