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[User Picture]From: sundaygray Date: July 7th, 2006 - 10:24 pm (Link)

Part I of huge message about women, clothes, workplace

[{I never understood women who try to dress like men because they think that no one will take them seriously if they look hot or express any sexuality or femininity.}]

That's because you're not a woman. I think it's a very very careful balancing act --one which I agonize over even though I really love clothes AND shopping.

I'm feelnig random, so I'm just going to free-associatedly riff on this subject beccause I have a few stories in mind. They all revolve around teaching, because that is my job.

Story #1: As any of you who know me in RL can attest to, in the past, I have loved playing with my hair. The majority of the time I spent in college, my hair was either shaved to the scalp or dyed every color of the rainbow. When I got to grad school, I expressed a lot of apprehension about continuing this. Most of the time I was there, my hair was one monochromatic shade of black. When I expressed a passing angst that I wished I could have purple hair again, many of my friends said, "Why don' t you just dye it? You're in grad school; you teach college English and creative writing. You artsy people are supposed to look like that." At which point I wanted to slap them.

Because see, until I am both independently wealthy and have a pulitzer winning book of poems, I do rely on someone else for my employment. And it matters what they think about the way I look, act, and express my opinions in the classroom. It's about getting ahead in your chosen field. I can guarantee you that, unless you work in the tattoos/piercing industry/rock music, it is EXTREMELY unlikely that your boss will have a purple mohawk. It is also unlikely that *if* your boss is a woman, she will not be coming to work showing mad cleavage. I don't go to work in a strappy low-cut tank top because I *will* get taken less seriously --the market is very competitive and such a look makes SOME PEOPLE just you as either immature or cheap or both. And when they convene a meeting of Very Important People to decide who gets contracts and who doesn't, I sure don't want anyone thinking about my breasts.

Story #2 coming up.

[User Picture]From: chrismaverick Date: July 8th, 2006 - 06:26 am (Link)

Re: Part I of huge message about women, clothes, workplace

don't make the mistake of assuming that by "dress femininely" I mean dress trampy or slutty. There's a big difference. A HUGE difference in fact. I'm not saying come to work looking like Britney Spears. I'm saying don't come to work dressed like Bill Gates. You're actually quite wrong in the assumption that a successful female business woman wouldn't wear something exceptionally feminine. In fact, women in business are far more likely to wear something feminine than masuline. I work in 60 story sky scraper with tons of corportate women in the bank, law, and business worlds. Trust me on this one. More later, once I've read the rest of your stories.

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