It's kind of the same thing where some say that people who get gastric bypass surgery are taking the "easy way out" because they aren't losing their weight through hard work and exercise. A defence mechanism to try and convince yourself that you're superior to something that makes you feel inferior.
As far as boobies go, my wife had a breast reduction only a couple months after we started dating and she says it's the best decision she could have made. I've got nothing to complain about. ;)

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that's another good example. I certainly don't think anyone should be forced to have gastric bypass if they don't want it, but I don't see any reason to look down on them if they do either. Its a personal choice they make.

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Personally, I don't like breast implants, but I just find them aesthetically displeasing. I don't generally care for really large boobs, but I find natural really large boobs more aesthetically pleasing than implant really large boobs. I've seen some boob jobs that took the patient from totally flat to an A or B, and I didn't think those looked bad.

I'm all about people getting whatever body modifications they want. I see boob jobs as the same as tattoos or what-have-you. And I might think that some tattoos look like shit, and I might think that most boob jobs look like shit, but I'm all about the person getting them if that's what they want.

I wouldn't consider an augmentation myself, as I prefer medium-sized boobs personally, and because it wouldn't be important to me. I'd consider reduction if my boobs were ginormous and caused me back problems definitely, and just for aesthetic value if they didn't cause me back problems but I just didn't like them.

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see, that's a different. That's more what I was getting at with guys who say they don't like implants. I think that's a fine point of view. Just like its fine to say you don't like girls who are "too fat" or "too skinny" or men who are "too short" or "too tall" or like you said, not loking tattoos. That's entirely different than the opinion of people who say that its anti-feminist to want implants.

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1) You cannot call someone "shallow" in a discussion of aesthetics. I mean, you can, but you should accept the fact that it makes you a head-up-the-ass pretentious wanker. And that's what we're talking about: aesthetics. Well, except you might have distain for someone who gets breast implants because they reduce nipple sensitivity.

2) It's the goddamn 21^st century. You can change your mind, and you can change your body. Getting breast implants (elective surgery and cost concerns aside) is little different that getting tattoos or ear piercings. Or wearing makeup (relative permanence aside). I mean, there are many (in my mind) valid reasons to not want to get breast implants. Enough that I think getting them is probably a bad decision. But it's not my decision to make (unless it's my boobelies that we're taking about), so if you really want to, go for it.

2b) I would not get penile enhancement, because I like my wife in one piece.

2c) If I were hung like whitey, I still probably wouldn't, `cause I suspect that functionality would be impaired. And, you know, elective surgery etc.

Bonus) I don't object to guys who get pec/bicep/etc implants, except to the extent that they're putting a coffee can on the end of their tailpipe and claiming that they've got a racing exhaust system. Pec implants do not make you strong, cape does not allow wearer to fly. A sad world. But, you know, I object to muscle-masquerading implants because the real thing is achievable and I think you're just a dork for not going down to the gym and listing heavy objects. But, you know, if it makes you happy, go for it. Just don't be surprised when I giggle.

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I don't think the guys who get pec implants care if they're strong; they care about attracting shallow women.

And I don't care if I'm a pretentious wanker.

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I'm one of the ones that wants a reduction. Not because they look bad (because I hear that they look great) but because they truly hurt my back.

I'm not jealous of girls with bigger boobs or smaller boobs. I just deal with myself, if that makes sense. Like I hate my thighs, but I don't look at girls and go "wow I wish I had her thighs". I just judge myself by what I think looks good on me. Which sounds kind of odd, I suppose.

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ok, but if you had someone technological way of giving yourself perfect thighs for some amount of money that you felt you could afford, would you take it?

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i think breast implants or reduction are totally up to the person.
like i had to get over the fact that my ex got rid of her mole on her face
i liked it alot and it messed up how i pictured her
but in the end it is her choice
and judging someone for doing something they want to do
is not your concern
making sure they are happy with their change is

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exactly... hmmm... I was really expecting someone to have the opposing opinion by now.

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I've never really given implants much thought in terms of being for or against them, but I guess I do look down on women who get them. I feel like they're wasting their money on something that's both shallow and that makes people look at them as sex objects rather than human beings.

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ok... good, finally someone copping to the opposite view. now I can ak questions.

but why do you care:
1) its not your money. and
2) why is it any more shallow than getting a tattoo, as others pointed out here. Is it just that men find it desirable? Because some men don't. And some men are really into tattoos.
3) Why is it shallow at all. Everyone wants to feel sexy/beautiful/attractive. If you don't, and you haven't for your entire life, and you can do something about it for $5000. Wouldn't it be worth it? I mean, what if it weren't breasts. What if you were born bald and incapabale of growing hair, but you could fix that for $5000. Would you do it? What if you had advanced vitiligo, would you spend money on fixing that? Heck, do you ever dye your hair? Where does the line of shallow begin?

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I think that the reason some women find implants shallow is because it's against what feminism is all about: it's women "reducing" themselves to simply being sex objects, like they need that attention on their chest rather than on their personality/brain.

I can't say I'd judge someone for getting reductions because I can imagine super huge breasts are painful.

A gastric bypass can also be done for health, not just for aesthetics, so I can't see how we can compare that.

But bigger boobs? That's all for aesthetics.

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sure... that's the argument, but I'd say its a load of hooey. :-) After all, you comb your hair every day. You wear clothes you think are attractive. Those are simply done for aesthetics as well, right? How is that not reducing yourself to a sex object. What about getting a tattoo? Or wearing contacts instead of glasses?

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My take:

Boob implants are fine if you want them. It's yer money, yer body, yer back ache.

No one complains that Eddie Murphy wasn't really made of green clay when he was Gumby. No one bitches that Pam Anderson isn't really 6'2" when she wears heels. When Someone syes their hair, no one gets huffy about it. Making yourself look a certain way is all about deception. Picking one trait and saying that fake=bad is hypocritical.

But really, it's not about big boobs, it's all about the good boobs.

Oh, and kudos for the Mickie James picts. She's HAWT... and she totally wants me.

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Yeah, I pretty much expected you to agree with me on this one. And I pretty much agree 100% with all of your examples.

I will totally tell Mickie that you're next in line after I'm done with her.

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I defnitely fall into the "implants are ugly" camp in most cases. (And stomach bypass is a totally different arena of "things that are more harmful than good, but pitched as quick fixes") I'm also personally adverse to non-essential surgury, but I fully recognize that it's a personal dislike.

But my big issue deals with motivations. I'm all for people having a sense of personal asthetics and striving to lok the way they want to look or their own personal goals of health. That's a positive motivation, and if you really think that you need bigger breasts to look the way you want to, that's fine.

Hell, I'm working on pretty major weightloss at the moment, and when I hit a point that's rgiht for me, I'm going to have to consider that myself though I'd probably look at it from a hormonal rather than surgical angle. Just as superficial, really, but that's my preference.

It's when the decisions isn't made from a point of confidence that I have problems. Not "I'd like how bigger breasts would look on me" but "I feel inadequate because my breasts are too small". That's where the problem starts- espcially when such insecurity is preyed upon for profit rather than addressed directly and treated in some way or another.

The problem isn't that there are women who want breast augmentation, but that our culture actively generates insecurity in people, then uses that to profit off of them. Instead of helping them find a more balanced and secure view of themselves from which they can make positive decisions, we build bigger and bigger insecurities and encourage people to act against their own best interests.

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Agreed - and I think that's the foundation for the reaction of looking down on the people who get the implants. Because they didn't just buy an aesthetic enhancement - they bought the bullshit from our society that they weren't good enough the way they were, or that they would have more value with bigger breasts. When in fact, all they'd have is bigger breasts (or in the case of implants, the semblance of bigger breasts).

We "look down" on the women who we perceive as buying into the system, as pyrtolin said, that doesn't give a shit about what's good for them, but benefits by exploiting the desire we all have to feel attractive and loveable. In the same way that you "look down" on the geek or outcast who's fawning at the feet of a cool kid, does whatever he says while everyone else laughs at his subjugation and looks down on him even more, while the loser can't tell because he's finally getting some attention and approval. It's not disdain for the kid's motivation - you empathize with that, but it's hard to keep out the disdain for how he's willing to lower himself to get the approval he needs. Same thing when women perceive other women to be getting breast implants to be more attractive - they're missing out on their own value, and the value and beauty other women want to protect and proclaim and celebrate and even flaunt that is inherent in the female body, whatever proportions it may come in. Hence the anti-feminist claim, I would think.

And there's also the personal level emotional response. Getting breast implants send the message that "naturally smaller breasts aren't good enough for me" which basically counts as a vote in the world at large that "naturally smaller breasts aren't good enough," so women who get implants are effectively insulting and devaluing the breasts of women whose are naturally smaller and who don't choose to get implants. And this on top of that message coming from the media and "boob guys", we now are getting it from other small-breasted women. It's adding insult to injury and pisses people off.

IMOs =)

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I am against any sort of cosmetic surgery outside of that for repairing some disfigurament (like after a mastectomy, or some sort of accident) or for gender reassignment surgery. I would never, ever get anything done myself for reasons other than the former. I'm just hoping I won't end up needing a reduction, like two of my first cousins and at least one of their daughters.

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Wow. I find that very interesting. I've already detailed my reasons for considering other people's plastic surgery choices their own damn business. But I find it quite interesting that you make the exception for gender reassignment. That seems quite contradictory and hypocritical. Why does a man who wants to become a woman have more right to breast augmentation than a woman?

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I'm in favor of Halloween jam, if for no other reason than I plan to have a wicked costume this year, and it'd be nice to maybe win something.

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I'm actually leaning towards having one... I just wish I could get a reasonably accurate count of who would be interested.

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If its a microsized birth defect or something, I could definatley understand. But as Sue on the "Sunday Night Sex Show" said... the negative possiblities far out weigh the positives and if you have a little bit, thats all that should be needed unless its porn.

But seriously though, that has to be dangerous and thats a part of my body I really dont want anything going wrong.

Till I'm told its not enough, I dont worry. And if I'm ever told that... I shall simply insist she is loose, a whore, and I need to spread those rumors fast. lol

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always a gentleman, you are...

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